First blog of 2008...and with it comes another denial of a possible match for the 13th time. I should have known right off the bat when Sue called that we probably wouldn't have been chosen. We have one of the most open grids for the type of child we are looking for. We're open to any race and sex of baby. Unfortunately, the birth mothers that are contacting our agency are not interested in us. I know everybody says that your baby is out there and deep, deep-deep down I know that's true but it doesn't help when you've been turned down 13 times! You just want to scream "What's wrong with us?!"
Bob seems to take it all in stride. Maybe it's a man thing...he seems completely unfazed by the whole process. I mean he wants a child but Bob always seems to have more of a 'whatever dude' attitude. I guess the hardest part for me is, not having any control over the situation. Every major decision I have made in my life...I made it and then did it. I wanted to buy a house...three months later we were all moved in. I wanted a new car...a week later I was driving a brand new car. It's not that easy with adopting a child, I am completely at the mercy of another human being and for me that it not a good feeling.
I guess it's time to stop wallowing and get back on the horse. That which does not kill us...you know the rest.
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Hi... we are having similar issues. I could say a bunch of metaphors but I won't. Please know that my best thoughts and prayers are with you and I hope that your baby finds you SOON!
Paulette,
Thanks for your thoughts I hope everything works out for you as well.
This process is just so frustrating!
Awwww! I am sorry. Bob sounds alot like Jeff, very laid back. Jeff always said maybe next time, and didnt seem worried, one bit. Praying your wait is almost over :)
I HATE that phonecall! When you can just tell by the way they say "Hello" that you haven't been chosen. Once we have our baby in our arms I am going to ask how many times we've been profiled. I'm going to guess 20. It sucks. It hurts. That's the bottom line. Prayers for you!
Hang in there Cory. It will happen.
Hi Cory
We are in the same boat as you. Soon we will all be enjoying our new blessings. Keep the faith!
janet
Hi Cory
We are in the same boat as you.
Your babies room is adorable.
Hope our babies find us soon.
Janet
I know all too well what you are feeling and going through. I've actually lost count how many times we were "showed", "chosen" and "failed".
DH and I have been working with the same agency since October 2003. Our most recent situation was a baby born in September. The birthfather refused to sign, after the baby was born. Since then...nothing but silence.
Sending you hugs and well wishes - I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
I am assuming, from the sounds of things, we are from the same general area. We need to compare notes sometime.
Hugs - Pep
Cory,
I guess we were fortunate in that Star didn't tell us when we were being profiled. I did ask a few months before we brought Josh home how many times we had been profiled and were told that on average they had profiled us about twice a month..... it took us 16 months to bring Josh home so you do the math...............
Once you bring your baby home the wait will all make sense and it can happen in a heart beat. We got the call about Josh and 1 1/2 days later we were parents!
Keep the faith!
Hi...I am new to your blog...I found it through Teri's. I am friends with all the girls on the AS board. Don't give up! Keep the faith...it will happen! Post more, people love reading what thougths go thru a prospective aoptive parents mind...I know I do...and others did when we were waiting. Keep the faith...it will happen!!!
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